What is LOVE?

What is LOVE? Is it all encompassing? Is it ignoring the fact that you are in a relationship purely for the convenience of your mate? Is it trying to love enough love for both of you? Is it burying or destroying all your beliefs and ethics to keep the peace? Is it forgetting where you came from and where you are going? It shouldn't be. If you are in a relationship like this...it is not love, it is abuse.

Love should be honest, open, and caring. There should be no lies or deceptions to "save your lover's feelings." That is a cop out. Lies and deception are just that..."Lies and deceptions." If your mate loves you...they love you. That's it. No "ifs, ands, or buts." Love is not, and should not be a lie.

Love should is not judgemental. If your mate lover makes mistakes, it is not a big deal. A mistake is just a mistake until it is knowingly continued and condoned. A corrected mistake is a lesson, an ignored mistake a burden. Do not carry another's burden or your won. That is not being judgmental, that is being wise. If you lay with camels, you WILL get fleas.

Love is passionate. Delve deeply into the things you love. If your lover is true, they will help feed those desires. They will enjoy seeing you aflame about your loves, and vice-versa. Promote what your mate is passionate about. Do not douse their fire or allow yours to be extinguished. Fires that burn brightly through the night and ages leave a testimony for all those that witness it.

Love is truth. Love is pure. Love is understanding. But love is wise. Love is the most precious gift you can give to another being. Cherish the love you give and receive. Absorb it and become one with it. Love is all encompassing, when it is real...

DBC 2011

Just as the symbol for infinity, there will always be two side in constant flux: attracting, and yet, resisting one another. That gives the energy for infinity. Much as many would like to believe, there will always be negative energies. Once one of the opposing poles disappears, the is no longer ANY motion. Energy needs to be stimulates. It LOVES action and reaction. It thrives on movement. A binary star system works well when there are two stars, The strongest feeding on the weakest. Once the stronger absorbs the weaker...it doesn't take long for the solitary victor to burn out. Those of us who decide to join the light, the expanse of everlasting love, will do so. But there will be those who do not. Chaos is needed for order.

Love is fascinating. It doesn't just come in one size. It grows. When you forgive someone who has hurt  you, and you continue to love them, your heart gets bigger. It is not "space"  that is getting larger, it is the bond of love that is growing larger by the second. The stronger the love, the more we expand. Ever notice the more love you give, the more you feel? Why? Because, you are taking that next step and the universe is growing with you. The expanse is endless when your love is without boundaries. Let it grow.

Love also shrivels when ignored or resented. When bonds break, the net gets weak. Don't hold on to hate.  Let it go.

Don't get into a relationship for convenience or excuses.

Too many people get into relationships because it is convenient. Sharing  responsibilities, bills, etc. Not good idea. Relationships are not like businesses. Do not merge for monetary or convenience reasons. Love can not be planted in concrete and expected to sprout.

Many also get into relationships they know will take a turn for the worse so they have an excuse for their bad habits. They swim long and until the rapids show up (which occurs in every relationship), start their bad habits, and then blame it on their partner. This is not right and brings harm on innocence.

If you are in a relationship and it does not look promising, SAY SOMETHING. Don't be afraid. Remaining silent is the worst thing you can do. Your partner thinks everything is alright and then BAM! out of the blue you drop a bomb. Keep each other informed of likes and dislikes. Let the other know if they come close to pushing your buttons. Don't be vague. LET THEM KNOW.

I spent 13 years in a relationship where I sat back and let her run over me. I was convenient for her (which she told me after 11 years of marriage), she blamed her bad habits on me (Xanax abuse, alcoholism, cutting, & adultery), and she was afraid to tell me the son I raised for 6 years belonged to my boss (I'd have left long before and let them get together). I thought I could muster enough love for both of us. I thought whatever spilled over would be absorbed. Doesn't work that way.

First and foremost, love yourself above all else. Respect yourself. Let no one use you. You should not be just a piece of furniture in a relationship.

BASICALLY: Be open and honest. Tell you lover your quirks as you get to know each other. No bombs allowed. Bombs bring about intense yelling negotiations and gunfire.

Love = ♥ = honesty

I am amazed and confused at the same time. So many tell you to: "Forget the past. Get over it. It is gone. Don't look back." And then they end their affirmations with something of their past in the same vein. I don't get it? Did your speaking of something bring their focus back to their "experience," and their tutorial is a quick wall to shield the memory in their mind? I used to have someone close to me tell me all the time to forget my ex,"A," and in the same breath he would rage on about their step daughter, "B". I wasn't angry, just talking. He was upset and very emotional when speaking of "B." It's the old "Do what I say, not what I do." OR the more recent, "Take my advice, I'm obviously not using it."

I see so many "enlightened" individuals speak of forgiveness and love and then see curse someone in anger minutes later. And then they claim, "I am only human." OR "Can't I have an off day?" I guess they can, but others can't. It seems being ascended is not all it is cracked up to be, it tends to bring posers out of the woodwork. And they do love to brag. It seems some are just professionals at "hiding" their stuff, they never really get over it either. And it usually stays hidden until it is need for an example, which only they are allowed to give. I had one tell me, "I am not out to try and heal anyone. I speak my mind and people can like it or go somewhere else." Really? What a loving soul. Then why are you in it? Sounds like a scam artist to me.

And then there are those that think the rest of us are stupid or blind. Yeah, they have some of the crowd fooled, but not me. I see right through them. I lived with a master manipulator/liar/deceiver for 13 years. I just act dumb to see how far someone will try and get over. I feel the deceit dripping from every pour of their essence. I love them and pray for them, but they will only change when they love themselves and what to change.

Yes, there are good ones out there. There are great people with words of wisdom and heart of gold. But there are also wolves in sheep's attire. Be careful before you give whole-heartedly into another's philosophy. I would suggest creating your own ideologies based on the best of the best and set your own standards. We might be ONE in the Universal sense, but remember..."You came into this world by yourself and you will leave it by yourself." So do something positive and worthy of yourself! Be remembered as a truthful, ethical, and loving being. Not a lying, manipulating, deceitful fool.

Just as the symbol for infinity, there will always be two side in constant flux: attracting, and yet, resisting one another. That gives the energy for infinity. Much as many would like to believe, there will always be negative energies. Once one of the opposing poles disappears, the is no longer ANY motion. Energy needs to be stimulates. It LOVES action and reaction. It thrives on movement. A binary star system works well when there are two stars, The strongest feeding on the weakest. Once the stronger absorbs the weaker...it doesn't take long for the solitary victor to burn out. Those of us who decide to join the light, the expanse of everlasting love, will do so. But there will be those who do not. Chaos is needed for order.

Love is fascinating. It doesn't just come in one size. It grows. When you forgive someone who has hurt  you, and you continue to love them, your heart gets bigger. It is not "space"  that is getting larger, it is the bond of love that is growing larger by the second. The stronger the love, the more we expand. Ever notice the more love you give, the more you feel? Why? Because, you are taking that next step and the universe is growing with you. The expanse is endless when your love is without boundaries. Let it grow.

Love also shrivels when ignored or resented. When bonds break, the net gets weak. Don't hold on to hate.  Let it go.

Don't get into a relationship for convenience or excuses.

Too many people get into relationships because it is convenient. Sharing  responsibilities, bills, etc. Not good idea. Relationships are not like businesses. Do not merge for monetary or convenience reasons. Love can not be planted in concrete and expected to sprout.

Many also get into relationships they know will take a turn for the worse so they have an excuse for their bad habits. They swim long and until the rapids show up (which occurs in every relationship), start their bad habits, and then blame it on their partner. This is not right and brings harm on innocence.

If you are in a relationship and it does not look promising, SAY SOMETHING. Don't be afraid. Remaining silent is the worst thing you can do. Your partner thinks everything is alright and then BAM! out of the blue you drop a bomb. Keep each other informed of likes and dislikes. Let the other know if they come close to pushing your buttons. Don't be vague. LET THEM KNOW.

I spent 13 years in a relationship where I sat back and let her run over me. I was convenient for her (which she told me after 11 years of marriage), she blamed her bad habits on me (Xanax abuse, alcoholism, cutting, & adultery), and she was afraid to tell me the son I raised for 6 years belonged to my boss (I'd have left long before and let them get together). I thought I could muster enough love for both of us. I thought whatever spilled over would be absorbed. Doesn't work that way.

First and foremost, love yourself above all else. Respect yourself. Let no one use you. You should not be just a piece of furniture in a relationship.

BASICALLY: Be open and honest. Tell you lover your quirks as you get to know each other. No bombs allowed. Bombs bring about intense yelling negotiations and gunfire.

Love = ♥ = honesty