I was in the midst of a conversation with friends scattered around the world; something was dropped in conversation and defenses went up. I
think the language barrier blew a fuse at that moment. No lasting harm was done. It was multiple misunderstandings. The
difficult thing about electronic conversation is the lack of
inflection. Emotions are included in personal understanding where none was conveyed. A word can be interpreted and misinterpreted all within a
nano-second.
One
thing we all need remember up front. We are each from different
cultures, countries, and upbringing. Our views and understanding will be
a bit different. We are friends and would not purposely offend each
other.
Even as strangers, why would we offend one another? Because it has been programmed into us by our leaders. War, politics, religion, etc. divide the common man. We are fighting so the Elite can keep their money safely invested in themselves. Why? Why should I kill a German or Russian because our top shelf belief varies a bit, while our basic lives are similar? Why, in turn, should they kill me? It is not natural that we sit and contemplate killing someone from another country. It IS natural for the Elite to use us as pawns for their game of greed.
What if they proposed a war and no one showed up? The tanks didn't roll, the guns didn't fire. They wouldn't MAN UP and go to the front lines. Time to shock the Elite culture and cut the puppet strings.
Love your neighbor as you love yourself. Do no harm. Live, laugh, and love...
Sunday, September 30, 2012
Saturday, September 29, 2012
MY OATH
I would promise you the moon
But it is not mine to present…
I will paint it with words of
love
And offer a personal
creation.
Fragrant flowers I could
bring
But tomorrow’s withers hold
no spark
Chocolate kisses in a
three-lock box
But they will melt, as the
ending elements.
Bands of gold and silver, nor
diamonds
Prove radiant on a cloudy day.
But I can make water dance a
waltz
And bring a smile to your
heart
Instead of all the riches
known
I bring to you the unknown
Making an oath to stand with
you forever…
…until the stars fall from
your eyes…
©
Sept 29, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
NOTE: photo is a random internet find
NOTE: photo is a random internet find
Friday, September 28, 2012
QUEEN OF THE ELEMENTS
When she was created, the
earth was made for her to walk upon.
It offered grass to soften
her steps, and flowers to bow before her.
The water came as rain to keep
the earth from turning to stone
And show her how tears would
keep her heart from hardening.
The wind appeared to dry her
tears and part as she journeyed forth
And whispered through her
hair into the placed she had been.
The fire grew in her heart
and she burned as bright as the sun
And every man that looked
upon her felt the burn of passion.
©
Sept 28, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Thursday, September 27, 2012
TWO SUNS
Before your inspiration bathed me in a new understanding:
The wind was just moving air, now I see it as the choreographer of dance to the flowers. Not a force that makes the trees bend, but a partner swaying with the giants, an invisible hand caressing the grasses into wave like movement, a spirit bringing your silk hair to life.
The flowers were just eye candy of nature, now I see them as worshipers of your beauty. Bowing before you as you pass…emanating fragrance in your honor…
The butterflies were just another pretty insect, now I see them as faeries that flit around you and wrap you in strand of love and light.
The ocean was just a large body of water; it is now the azure stage over which we dance. I see it now as an aquarium full of life that stares in awe as we waltz thru the night under the watchful gaze of Luna.
The moon is not just a floating rock, but a lover caught in an endless chase trying to reunite with her lover Sol. A never-ending love story…
Before we spoke you were just another mortal soul, and now I see a heart so caring and full of grace that it has the power to be the center of creation and immortality.
Two suns could not equal the love and light you add to my life...
© Sept 27, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Sunday, September 23, 2012
FRIENDS
Some people are like a breath of fresh air, offering the youth of Spring in all they do
But sometimes they do not know when to slow down
Some offer harmony and contentment like the warm breeze of Summer
But sometimes they sweep under the rug, the dirt that needs attention
Others give us knowledge and offer memories in life’s Autumn harvest
But sometimes they pry too much and we reap pain
And there are those that leave us discontent and cold like Winter’s freeze
They leave us empty and wanting to forget…
Then there are people called friends, and they know what season we are in and how to compliment the moment.
They dance with the magic when we forget it is there.
They offer an occasional flame to rekindle the passion in our hearts.
They help us remember and relive the good times in color.
They teach us to methods to forget the madness of the past .
I hope I can offer such things when my friends are in need...
But sometimes they do not know when to slow down
Some offer harmony and contentment like the warm breeze of Summer
But sometimes they sweep under the rug, the dirt that needs attention
Others give us knowledge and offer memories in life’s Autumn harvest
But sometimes they pry too much and we reap pain
And there are those that leave us discontent and cold like Winter’s freeze
They leave us empty and wanting to forget…
Then there are people called friends, and they know what season we are in and how to compliment the moment.
They dance with the magic when we forget it is there.
They offer an occasional flame to rekindle the passion in our hearts.
They help us remember and relive the good times in color.
They teach us to methods to forget the madness of the past .
I hope I can offer such things when my friends are in need...
©
Sept 23, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Saturday, September 22, 2012
Calling down thunder
Before the red eyes of the creeping fires grow weary
I beckon their sight thru the night of deceit…
A wind blows steady from the world’s end
Scattering truth’s dust from the lines of time
Dark days will reign until the sun puts out the shadow
of man’s falling from the sky with death in his throat.
A dancing of moonlight
The phantoms ebb and flow
A stirring of a wind
No breath has ever known
A song I do not recognize
Prowls the forest floor
Desire in its eyes
Seeking the serpent’s chord.
Leaves of thought fall away baring the might oak
behind a lone acorn waits to carry on
The once fertile ground now soak with innocence
memories of light'ning trampled under foot
Reaching to the sky I call down the thunder
to split the chaos beneath the blanket of dispair.
©
Sept 29, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
before the fall
Dreams
dance with the crackle of the fire
Thoughts
rise with the plumes of smoke
Memories
of her sway with the flames
The
tears of time pool at my feet
As
the weight of the night presses upon my essence
My
broken heart flows thru my pen…
Words
like blood dripping from my soul
The
only regret that I will ever have
is
that I did not see her beauty one last time…
…before
the fall.
©
Sept 22, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Friday, September 21, 2012
DUKE OF THE ARCTIC
I have swung on the razor sharp thread of madness
Laughed while others cried
And wept at the promise of a new sunrise…
I made princes of fools and fools of wisemen
My queen now lies with a jester…
My crown is fools’ gold adorned with colored glass…
My scepter crafted of wormwood and thorn
Fractured is the throne upon which I rule
My kingdom fell to ruinous waste…
My castle is now under the sea…
Weary and withered I lift my chalice
Taunting Death at His door
Tasting the sweet peace of hemlock
And wondered if Charon faced the trials of mankind
Prior to navigating the Stygian current…
I challenged all that once was, is, and shall be
Rewrote the fragile scripts of reason
The sands of time have turned to dust
Carried away by the Arctic winds
I now sit in rule of the Plane of frozen dreams.
© Aug 30, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
I LOVE YOU
It's not in the things we spoke,
it's all in what we failed to say.
Our words spoke volumes but faded into the night,
yet the echo of our silence still rings in thru the days.
You told me what I was, but never what I was not.
I told you what you were not, but never what you were.
The good times lost to the whispering winds,
yet the bad times scream like howling cyclones.
We learned to speak in short, rhythmic verse
and forgot how to really say, “I love you.”
Now I sit in silence and have tried to learn to say
“I love you” one million ways.
Gv-ge-yu-hi, Jeg elsker dig, Ek is lief vir jou,
Volim te,Jeg elsker dig, Rakastan sinua,
Je t'aime,Ich liebe dich, Is breá liom tú.
Je t'aime,Ich liebe dich, Is breá liom tú.
But when it comes down to it...
I am simple man and all I can really say...
“I love you. I am sorry. I might be a writer,
but I stumble over words. Forgive me for being me?“
© Oct 23, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
STANDING IN THE EYE
Words become barriers within the maelstrom,
and placed betwixt two soul from whence they came.
Closing of the heart and building walls,
doesn’t stop the storm, but adds to the swirling chaos.
I must break free from the grasp of time
and not fall away from my fate.
Destinies collide to create new currents,
erasing the lies written in sand.
The looming clouds of forgiveness are heavy
and will wash away the sadness
Be gone all doubt, return my love on wings
The dove is stronger than the hurricane.
As the candles burn and the storm builds,
I cast my pain and worries to the winds
Let them be taken to distant shores,
and shattered on the rocks of forgetfulness.
© Oct 22, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
I AM ETERNAL
Standing and watching you from across the room,
I could hear your words echo thru the crowd.
“I love you” fell from your lips like raindrops
Until I was soaking wet and dancing in the storm.
Whispering winds carry my heart’s song
To softly light on your awaiting ears,
“You are the one I have been waiting for,
the one I have dreamed of as long as I remember.”
I will always believe in love at first sight,
when I first saw you, I knew it was true.
I am yours to do as you please,
be gentle with me and I am eternal….
© Sept 22, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
the expanse
One day we will be home...we will return to endless expanse. We will be endless in our own right and we will engulf all that we see and experience. We will be ONE and we will be EVERYTHING all at once. We will feel the Super Novae bursting, we will feel the Pulsar’s powerful throb, and we will feel the Binary stars feeding each other. We will feel the twinkling of every star in every galaxy in every dimension. We will feel the pull of the center of our galaxy versus the pull of open space. We will experience the vastness of spiral galaxies slowing winding their way around the center of our universe. We will vibrate and feel everything! We will not only feel these things, we will BE love! That is all that will remain.
©July 1, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
©July 1, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
angel fire
The warm winds of tranquility
Clear the smoke from my eyes
Leaf-like remnants of a broken heart
Blow into the darkness of light
I forget the name, the pain
Leave the tears for the rain
All I remember is the love...
I’ve been touched by angel fire.
©Sept 21, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Clear the smoke from my eyes
Leaf-like remnants of a broken heart
Blow into the darkness of light
I forget the name, the pain
Leave the tears for the rain
All I remember is the love...
I’ve been touched by angel fire.
©Sept 21, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
the heart of a woman
I hold in my hand
Something more brilliant than a diamond in the sun
More valuable than all the gold in the world
Small enough to hold in my palm,
…yet large enough to encompass a universe
Its strength could start fires of uncontrollable passion
…yet its gentle beating rhythm holds me captive
It is the heart of a woman.
Something more brilliant than a diamond in the sun
More valuable than all the gold in the world
Small enough to hold in my palm,
…yet large enough to encompass a universe
Its strength could start fires of uncontrollable passion
…yet its gentle beating rhythm holds me captive
It is the heart of a woman.
©
Sept 21, 2012 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Thursday, September 20, 2012
it is you
It is you that
say I am beautiful, but no…
It is I that am
only lovely as filtered through your beautiful heart.
It is you that
say you are blessed, but no...
It is I that am
blessed due to your angelic presence.
It is you that
say you shine because of me, but no…
It is I that
shine due to the brilliance you have placed in my heart.
©June 25, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
THE BLACK KNYGHT
Standing behind the wheel of my mighty vessel…
Steering her silently thru the sacred waters
Listening for the sweet song of my siren lover
Hoping it will be carried to me upon this evening’s breeze.
Setting sails for the promise of rewritten yesterday…
Moonbeams filter
through dragon clouds
The sea, a mirror
surface, polished by Luna’s light
Offers a glimpse at the rocky crags ahead
Settling in for a long night of quiet longing…
As the gulls close their eyes and wings
My eyes and ears are on the ready
Hoping her cry will come to me before dawn.
Smelling the brine of the sea mixed with tar and timbers…
As the creaks and moans of my ship
Battle
to be heard over the roar of Poseidon
The tempest threatens to roll me under.
Searching the horizon as it slowly pulls down the moon …
Where is the hidden hand that draws
The curtain of the morn’ overhead
And offers sight to this blind sailor?
©July 9, 2011 ~
DBC, Duke of the Arctic
stress
Sometimes conversations take strange turns, just like
life. But there is no need to get upset or angered over a turning of words. If
I mention "apple" and you start talking of "oranges," How
can I be upset? They are both fruits. Just because I was thinking of a
"tree," doesn't mean that I was right. All things, including
conversations, happen for a reason. Let us not assume that someone is trying to
overshadow our post or attack our words. This is a sanctuary. A place of peace.
It must stay that way, regardless of individual prejudice or ego. Let love rain
and let love reign. Relax and exchange pleasantries only? Remember, stress is the number 2 killer, right under slipping on banana peels while trying to
cross the Nile on the backs of alligator. DBC Sept 14 2011
Angel
Time stood silently still and thought something amiss,
"We have forgotten something, but what?
We engulf all that was, is, and shall be...
but we've no way to express our essence..."
Time silently marched on for eons
No clue came forth to offer itself
Until one day they saw a light.
A pure soft glow like never known
It lit the expanse in a pulsing violet blue...
"What this?" thought Time, "What's
this?"
And deep reflection proved naught.
They did watch this angel flit
From place to place through time.
She spoke of love and forgiveness
And help souls cleanse their hearts.
"That's it!" they said, "That's it!"
We need a voice. A voice to tell of Time.
They stood in awe of this tiny soul
This angel of mercy and light.
They listened to her tell the tales
Of mankind's spirit and soul.
Time stood silently still and thought it will be alright
"We've forgot nothing, we only thought, but naught!
We have an angel to express our thoughts.
Her name is ..."
© August 31,2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Immortality
Immortality is lonely walk thru the avenues of mankind.
The passion is endless and never satisfied. For each layer of mystery you pull
back, another will loom in front of you. The illusions of purity lies is seen
only by the beholder, the truth of the deceit festers in the heart of all.
Beauty flourishes best in the dark, where it is felt and tasted instead of
lusted upon by the eyes of mortal men. You have spoken words that stirred
something deep within, something forgotten. I remember the nights of wonder and
ecstacy so long ago, The desire in your words set my teeth on edge...I must
feed tonight...whisper in my ear and I shall bring you to my side of the
ethereal curtain. I shall show you paradise...
© August 25, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
IT WAS REAL TO ME
holding your hand
as we walked in the sand
holding you close in the cool breeze
it was real to me
my love was always real
brushing back your hair
caressing you face
gazing into the sea of your eyes
it was real to me
my love was always real
kissing your soft lips
as fell deeper in love
melting into your essence
it was real to me
my love was always real
feeling your heartbeat
fall into rhythm with mine
in cadence with passion
it was real to me
my love was always real
we are now lost
torn apart by words misspoken
but believe me when I say
it was real to me
my love was always real.
© Oct 3, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
PHANTASMAL TERRAIN
you walk
in the shadows
dodging
shafts of light
the
whispering man offers
secrets
of the path
you keep
hiding
from the
hunting dogs
the
rabbit lives on
sleeping
with your past
the
hourglass is cracked
the sands
of time spilling
the value
of lies
is
working like a charm
as the
stars fall around
lighting
up the meadow
dance
among the flowers
you'll do
no harm
howls
from beyond the trees
ring deep
through the night
play your
lyre 'til dawn
and don't
ever look behind
don't let
your regrets
tear your
castle down
offering
walls to dust
to the
unforgiving wind.
the past
is deceit...
a screen
of illusions...
a
phantasmal terrain...
used to
break your focus!
Look
ahead! Look ahead!
© June
12, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
I live and breathe
I live
and breathe everything I write. I remember so much. I am sure I have forgotten
more than I can recall. So many flashes of distant dreams and other lives. It
is hard to separate them. It is difficult to stumble through mortal vocabulary
to describe the essence of wandering on other planes of existence. There is so
much inside of me that I could write for the rest of eternity and still not
scribe all I have seen or felt. Time itself has made me the keeper of the
memories of the universe.
© August
31,2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
V**V
Immortality
is lonely walk thru the avenues of mankind. The passion is endless and never
satisfied. For each layer of mystery you pull back, another will loom in front
of you. The illusions of purity is seen only by the beholder, the truth of
the deceit festers in the heart of all. Beauty flourishes best in the dark,
where it is felt and tasted instead of in the light where it is lusted upon by the eyes of mortal men.
You have spoken words that stirred something deep within, something forgotten.
I remember the nights of wonder and ecstasy so long ago, The desire in your
words set my teeth on edge...I must feed tonight...whisper in my ear and I
shall bring you to my side of the ethereal curtain. I shall show you
paradise...
© August
25, 2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
What is LOVE?
What is
LOVE? Is it all encompassing? Is it ignoring the fact that you are in a
relationship purely for the convenience of your mate? Is it trying to love
enough love for both of you? Is it burying or destroying all your beliefs and
ethics to keep the peace? Is it forgetting where you came from and where you
are going? It shouldn't be. If you are in a relationship like this...it is not
love, it is abuse.
Love
should be honest, open, and caring. There should be no lies or deceptions to
"save your lover's feelings." That is a cop out. Lies and deception
are just that..."Lies and deceptions." If your mate loves you...they
love you. That's it. No "ifs, ands, or buts." Love is not, and should
not be a lie.
Love
should is not judgemental. If your mate lover makes mistakes, it is not a big
deal. A mistake is just a mistake until it is knowingly continued and condoned.
A corrected mistake is a lesson, an ignored mistake a burden. Do not carry
another's burden or your won. That is not being judgmental, that is being
wise. If you lay with camels, you WILL get fleas.
Love is
passionate. Delve deeply into the things you love. If your lover is true, they
will help feed those desires. They will enjoy seeing you aflame about your
loves, and vice-versa. Promote what your mate is passionate about. Do not douse
their fire or allow yours to be extinguished. Fires that burn brightly through
the night and ages leave a testimony for all those that witness it.
Love is
truth. Love is pure. Love is understanding. But love is wise. Love is the most
precious gift you can give to another being. Cherish the love you give and
receive. Absorb it and become one with it. Love is all encompassing, when it is
real...
DBC 2011
Just as
the symbol for infinity, there will always be two side in constant flux:
attracting, and yet, resisting one another. That gives the energy for infinity.
Much as many would like to believe, there will always be negative energies.
Once one of the opposing poles disappears, the is no longer ANY motion. Energy
needs to be stimulates. It LOVES action and reaction. It thrives on movement. A
binary star system works well when there are two stars, The strongest feeding
on the weakest. Once the stronger absorbs the weaker...it doesn't take long for
the solitary victor to burn out. Those of us who decide to join the light, the
expanse of everlasting love, will do so. But there will be those who do not.
Chaos is needed for order.
Love is
fascinating. It doesn't just come in one size. It grows. When you forgive
someone who has hurt you, and you
continue to love them, your heart gets bigger. It is not "space" that is getting larger, it is the bond of
love that is growing larger by the second. The stronger the love, the more we
expand. Ever notice the more love you give, the more you feel? Why? Because,
you are taking that next step and the universe is growing with you. The expanse
is endless when your love is without boundaries. Let it grow.
Love also
shrivels when ignored or resented. When bonds break, the net gets weak. Don't
hold on to hate. Let it go.
Don't get
into a relationship for convenience or excuses.
Too many
people get into relationships because it is convenient. Sharing responsibilities, bills, etc. Not good idea.
Relationships are not like businesses. Do not merge for monetary or convenience
reasons. Love can not be planted in concrete and expected to sprout.
Many also
get into relationships they know will take a turn for the worse so they have an
excuse for their bad habits. They swim long and until the rapids show up (which
occurs in every relationship), start their bad habits, and then blame it on
their partner. This is not right and brings harm on innocence.
If you
are in a relationship and it does not look promising, SAY SOMETHING. Don't be
afraid. Remaining silent is the worst thing you can do. Your partner thinks
everything is alright and then BAM! out of the blue you drop a bomb. Keep each
other informed of likes and dislikes. Let the other know if they come close to
pushing your buttons. Don't be vague. LET THEM KNOW.
I spent
13 years in a relationship where I sat back and let her run over me. I was
convenient for her (which she told me after 11 years of marriage), she blamed
her bad habits on me (Xanax abuse, alcoholism, cutting, & adultery), and
she was afraid to tell me the son I raised for 6 years belonged to my boss (I'd
have left long before and let them get together). I thought I could muster enough
love for both of us. I thought whatever spilled over would be absorbed. Doesn't
work that way.
First and
foremost, love yourself above all else. Respect yourself. Let no one use you.
You should not be just a piece of furniture in a relationship.
BASICALLY:
Be open and honest. Tell you lover your quirks as you get to know each other.
No bombs allowed. Bombs bring about intense yelling negotiations and gunfire.
Love = ♥
= honesty
I am
amazed and confused at the same time. So many tell you to: "Forget the
past. Get over it. It is gone. Don't look back." And then they end their
affirmations with something of their past in the same vein. I don't get it? Did
your speaking of something bring their focus back to their
"experience," and their tutorial is a quick wall to shield the memory
in their mind? I used to have someone close to me tell me all the time to
forget my ex,"A," and in the same breath he would rage on about their
step daughter, "B". I wasn't angry, just talking. He was upset and
very emotional when speaking of "B." It's the old "Do what I
say, not what I do." OR the more recent, "Take my advice, I'm
obviously not using it."
I see so
many "enlightened" individuals speak of forgiveness and love and then
see curse someone in anger minutes later. And then they claim, "I am only
human." OR "Can't I have an off day?" I guess they can, but
others can't. It seems being ascended is not all it is cracked up to be, it
tends to bring posers out of the woodwork. And they do love to brag. It seems
some are just professionals at "hiding" their stuff, they never
really get over it either. And it usually stays hidden until it is need for an
example, which only they are allowed to give. I had one tell me, "I am not
out to try and heal anyone. I speak my mind and people can like it or go
somewhere else." Really? What a loving soul. Then why are you in it?
Sounds like a scam artist to me.
And then
there are those that think the rest of us are stupid or blind. Yeah, they have
some of the crowd fooled, but not me. I see right through them. I lived with a
master manipulator/liar/deceiver for 13 years. I just act dumb to see how far
someone will try and get over. I feel the deceit dripping from every pour of
their essence. I love them and pray for them, but they will only change when
they love themselves and what to change.
Yes,
there are good ones out there. There are great people with words of wisdom and
heart of gold. But there are also wolves in sheep's attire. Be careful before
you give whole-heartedly into another's philosophy. I would suggest creating
your own ideologies based on the best of the best and set your own standards.
We might be ONE in the Universal sense, but remember..."You came into this
world by yourself and you will leave it by yourself." So do something
positive and worthy of yourself! Be remembered as a truthful, ethical, and
loving being. Not a lying, manipulating, deceitful fool.
Just as
the symbol for infinity, there will always be two side in constant flux:
attracting, and yet, resisting one another. That gives the energy for infinity.
Much as many would like to believe, there will always be negative energies.
Once one of the opposing poles disappears, the is no longer ANY motion. Energy
needs to be stimulates. It LOVES action and reaction. It thrives on movement. A
binary star system works well when there are two stars, The strongest feeding
on the weakest. Once the stronger absorbs the weaker...it doesn't take long for
the solitary victor to burn out. Those of us who decide to join the light, the
expanse of everlasting love, will do so. But there will be those who do not.
Chaos is needed for order.
Love is
fascinating. It doesn't just come in one size. It grows. When you forgive
someone who has hurt you, and you
continue to love them, your heart gets bigger. It is not "space" that is getting larger, it is the bond of
love that is growing larger by the second. The stronger the love, the more we
expand. Ever notice the more love you give, the more you feel? Why? Because,
you are taking that next step and the universe is growing with you. The expanse
is endless when your love is without boundaries. Let it grow.
Love also
shrivels when ignored or resented. When bonds break, the net gets weak. Don't
hold on to hate. Let it go.
Don't get
into a relationship for convenience or excuses.
Too many
people get into relationships because it is convenient. Sharing responsibilities, bills, etc. Not good idea.
Relationships are not like businesses. Do not merge for monetary or convenience
reasons. Love can not be planted in concrete and expected to sprout.
Many also
get into relationships they know will take a turn for the worse so they have an
excuse for their bad habits. They swim long and until the rapids show up (which
occurs in every relationship), start their bad habits, and then blame it on
their partner. This is not right and brings harm on innocence.
If you
are in a relationship and it does not look promising, SAY SOMETHING. Don't be
afraid. Remaining silent is the worst thing you can do. Your partner thinks
everything is alright and then BAM! out of the blue you drop a bomb. Keep each
other informed of likes and dislikes. Let the other know if they come close to
pushing your buttons. Don't be vague. LET THEM KNOW.
I spent
13 years in a relationship where I sat back and let her run over me. I was
convenient for her (which she told me after 11 years of marriage), she blamed
her bad habits on me (Xanax abuse, alcoholism, cutting, & adultery), and
she was afraid to tell me the son I raised for 6 years belonged to my boss (I'd
have left long before and let them get together). I thought I could muster enough
love for both of us. I thought whatever spilled over would be absorbed. Doesn't
work that way.
First and
foremost, love yourself above all else. Respect yourself. Let no one use you.
You should not be just a piece of furniture in a relationship.
BASICALLY:
Be open and honest. Tell you lover your quirks as you get to know each other.
No bombs allowed. Bombs bring about intense yelling negotiations and gunfire.
Love = ♥
= honesty
random thoughts
Our
passion is part of who we are. It makes us who we are, it drives us to our
destiny, it satisfies us in ways nothing else can. Embrace it and live it. Run
with your passion. Any part of you that you hold back is hindering your
growth...
BE
AUTHENTIC: Be who you are 100%, all of the time. Don't wear masks to attract
someone. One day you'll slip and forget the mask. Nor should you wear a mask to
"save someone's feelings." In both cases, you have lied to the other
person. You have not presented the true you. How many lies or more illusions
will be need to cover up the first? How long will you remember the original
falsification? Hmmmm?
You can
be quietly vigilant and comfort, but you should never whisper deception in
another's ear to appease.
The
more you practice authenticity, the more genuine you will become. Today is a
great starting point.
A
corrected mistake is a lesson, an ignored mistake a burden. ~DBC 2011
I had a
goat and the goat-getter came.
The goat-getter got my goat and I ain't the same.
The goat-getter got my goat and I ain't the same.
I gotta
get my goat back by tomorrow noon.
I've
given to the goat-getter too darn soon!
DBC 2011
Once my
pen is upright, it tends to dance for hours on end. It dips, sways, turns, and
bows and leaves ink shadows of where it has been. Always lovingly embraced by
my fingers, the pen waltzes slowly and elegantly across the parchment stage. Creating a
new story every time the music begins. ~ DBC 2011
The heaviest thing in the world is an empty heart. Don't
let it be an anchor. Fill your heart with love. Let your friends reside in your
heart. The best ointment for a wounded heart is a friend's love. Let you heart
echo loudly with life, laughter, and love.
An easy ride makes for a boring ride.The great things in
life are worth fighting for. You are worth fighting for. I am worth fighting
for. We are worth fighting for. We are enough!
I love you. To depths I can not fathom, but will swim the
endless seas of love. To heights I may never reach, but I will soar in search
of the highest peak. I will love without boundaries. I will be engulfed in your
expanse and you in mine. We shall create a cyclone like never known to love. It
shall carry us away...I am there... May 1, 2011
© May 1,2011 ~ DBC, Duke of the Arctic
Before you think, don’t look behind…
Love is never where you’d expect it.
It’s usually right in front of you.
Just open you heart, not your eyes.
For the life of a pirate
Three things do make complete.
The list, which is:
Rum, wenches, and riches…
~ DBC 2011
Under the willow tree, in a tiny world of fallen leaves,
Faeries dance and prepare for the feast…
The duchess dons her best shade of violet
Southern winds dance and sing thru the forest,
Fighting to be heard over the pixie crier,
“The Duke is returning from the East,
Festivities shall commence within a fortnight.
The hunt was a success, the fox has been snared.
The coffers have been replenished. Hallelujah!
The prophecy has been fulfilled.”
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